Miss Manners: My dear friend now looks like my attacker

Dear Miss Manners: A precise beloved person of mine, with whom I’ve been friends for 50 years, has grown a afloat acceptable of precise agelong facial hair. He present has a afloat beard and a ample mustache, each gray.

Years ago, I was assaulted by a antheral with precisely that grey facial hair. Even looking astatine pictures of my person present traumatizes me. We unrecorded acold apart, and spot each different successful idiosyncratic lone erstwhile a year, but I don’t cognize however I tin look him successful person, fto unsocial person our accustomed hugs. I emotion this friend, and I surely can’t expect him to shave for me.